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Who’s Choice is Pro Choice?
When someone labels his position “pro-choice,” whose choices does he mean?
An article entitled “Who’s Making the Choice?” in the Post Abortion Review states, “Hundreds of thousands of women undergo unwanted abortions every year to please someone else or because of pressure or coercion by their sexual partners, parents, social workers, counselors, employers, or school administrators.” A boyfriend or parent threatens to throw her into the streets unless she follows his or her wishes. A Boss gives an employment ultimatum, Social or school stigma interferes with the “choice” the girl would otherwise make. According to a survey of 252 post-abortive women, more than half said they felt “forced” into the abortion by others.
In one survey 70 percent of women “choosing an abortion” say they believe abortion is immoral. They violated their own consciences because of pressure from people or circumstances. More than 80 percent of women who report post-abortion problems say they would have carried their child to term if they had more support from friends and family.
Crisis counselors know people under pressure lose confidence in their own judgment and rely heavily on others. A desire to re-establish stability makes individuals more vulnerable, more susceptible to influence from others who claim to be able to solve the crisis, especially those who appear to have status or authority.
One woman recalls, “My family would not support my decision to keep my baby. My boyfriend said he would give me no emotional or financial help whatsoever. [Everyone] that mattered told me to abort. When I said I didn’t want to, they starting listing reasons why I should…I started feeling like maybe I was crazy to want to keep it…
“I finally told everyone I would have an abortion just to get them off my back … I was scared to not do it because of how my family and boyfriend felt. I’m so angry at myself for giving into the pressure of others.” That young woman tragically attempted suicide shortly afterwards.
Ambivalence paralyzes the will. The heart says not to abort – others say they have to. One woman said, “I didn’t want to kill my child: I just made the decision … not to make a conscious choice at all. In fact, Planned Parenthood … tell[s] you that you have no choice but to get an abortion – the irony of the ‘pro-choice’ rhetoric.”
The article “Who’s Making the Choice?” concludes that many, perhaps most, women who have abortions feel pressured into choosing abortion against their conscience[s] … [A]bortion clinics generally make no attempt [to] help women resist the pressures they face to undergo unwanted abortions.” More than 80 percent of women with post-abortion problems report that their abortion-clinic counselors showed no interest in helping to explore other options.
“Abortion counseling is usually designed to “sell” the woman on abortion, and certainly not to help her escape the pressure of others who may be pushing her into an unwanted abortion.”
In practical fact, “pro-choice” means abortion salespeople making the choice! Remember that, and remember these chilling statistics the next time you hear a feminist group defending a woman’s so-called “right to choose.”
Sex and the “Glamour” Girl
by L. Brent Bozell III August 26, 2003
We know the ideal of sexual purity and a clarion call for abstinence are seen by Hollywood as … quaint. In some Tinseltown circles it’s even dangerous. Miramax recently released another in a series of Catholic-bashing movies, “The Magdalene Sisters,” which takes the regrettable story of Ireland’s Magdalene laundries, where young women who were sexually active, pregnant, or even just too flirty were consigned to hard labor. Predictably the movie turns it all into a broad-brushed propagandistic vision of a church pulsing with pure evil.
That is hardly the cultural predicament for young American women today. They not only are encouraged to be sexual by their male contemporaries, they are also heartily encouraged by women and women’s media to rid themselves of purity.
The Chicago Tribune reported that the trendiness of HBO’s “Sex in the City,” as personified by Sarah Jessica Parker’s cool booty-call chronicler, has resulted in a new sensation: “Sex columnists are as routine at college campuses as midterms.” For example, the Tribune told the story of Julia Baugher, who writes a sex-advice column for the Hoya, the student newspaper at Jesuit-run Georgetown University. Her advice to the college audience: Get some sex.
Julia encourages incoming freshmen females to dump their distant boyfriends for some sex play away from the constraints of home: “If you left a high-school honey to come to college, don't spend your time hanging on to what's back home. You'll miss out on the fun of your new place, only to break up by February anyway.” She suggests that if girls don’t have a relationship, they ought not “go nuts,” since “you don't want a bad reputation stalking you for the next four years.” In other words, the only limits on a lady’s “liberation” is her vulnerability to gossip. Even in Catholic corners of the culture, the notion of God sometimes seems to have disappeared.
In the September issue of Glamour magazine (circulation: almost 3 million, many of them teenage girls), actress Holly Robinson Peete gives this advice to the single girl: “You are in a blissful stage. Really enjoy yourself right now because it does change. I want you to have a lot of sex and get a lot of sleep.”
But that’s not the worst of it. This edition of Glamour also contains advice if that sex goes wrong, and she accidentally becomes pregnant. It is, incredibly, this: You cannot only get an abortion, but you can feel good about yourself while you do it. A group of abortion clinic operators calling themselves the “November Gang” is encouraging their customers to write little valentines on pink paper hearts to the babies they’ve killed.
Glamour finds it “poignant” that one woman wrote to her victim: “To my little angel, Please understand that you are better off in the hands of God than mine at this moment.” (This is hard to debate.) “I smile when I think of you, even if I cry. You have given me reason to be strong and wise and responsible. You will always be my baby. I will see you in heaven, sweetheart. Love you! Love always and unconditionally, your mommy.”
The hearts are posted in one Pittsburgh clinic, “rows and rows of them taped to the walls.” Some are more fist-pumping feminist notes, such as: “Women: this is your life and your body. What you think is right...Is!...And if you think this is a ‘sin,’ remember, God forgives!” Glamour reported that counselors push this notion hard to the more religious girls. When one girl says she goes to church every Sunday, the counselor asks “Do you think there are any things God considers completely unforgivable?” The clinics also invite more religious girls to “pray over their fetuses, even to sprinkle them with holy water in impromptu baptismal rites.”
Even abortionists are conceding the “fetus” is a child of God; it’s just a child of God they have the right to kill. Women can be forgiven for abortions, but that requires real regret and repentance, not paper valentines and happy talk. Abortion advocates also disdain this approach. The Glamour article mentioned that “mainstream abortion rights proponents don’t think such candor is helpful.” Kate Michelman of NARAL protests that it’s not her job to “wear every woman’s feelings publicly.”
In today’s culture we condemn women’s magazines for encouraging girls to obsess about their appearance, their weight, and the happiness that comes only from cosmetic products like “deep thermal refinisher.” I’m waiting for the rebuke of these magazines for encouraging girls to indulge in sex without consequences, and when the consequences arrive, encouraging them to butcher them, then air-kiss them with a ridiculous love note.